Advice for parents
While some parents explain why their relationship is ending when they tell the children about the separation or divorce, others may not be ready to discuss the reasons for their decision. Emotions might be too raw or there may be intensely personal issues that should not be shared with children. Parents have the right to keep their reasons for separating or divorcing to themselves.
It must be stressed, however, that if you cannot – or are not willing to – give your children reasons for your decision to separate or divorce, you must tell them that they are not to blame for the break-up. This will help prevent children from feeling guilty about their parents splitting up. You can explain that the problems in the relationship are adult problems between you and the other parent. Emphasize to the children that the two of you are ending your adult relationship, but will continue to be loving and supportive parents.
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